On Preparing for Worship
"When we meet with our kinsfolk and acquaintance, let it be our prayer to God that our communion may be not only pleasant, but profitable. Let us pray that we may not merely pass away time and spend a pleasant hour, but may advance a day's march nearer Heaven and acquire greater fitness for our eternal rest!" — C. H. Spurgeon
10:45 a.m. is the deadline to meet my friend. I hustle down the highway ready to be on-time. I take a phone call on the way to be efficient with my time. As the phone call ends, I am on the highway nearly fifteen minutes out of the way. The exit missed. The highway drive so routine that I neglected the exit. In our routine attendance of gathering with God’s people, sometimes we miss the exit, neglecting the ultimate end of why we’ve gathered.
For those of us who gather for worship week-in and week-out, we must vigilantly guard our hearts for worship. Guarding our hearts for worship might be one of the greatest gifts we can give to God, ourselves, and others. Why is guarding and preparing our hearts and minds for worship so vital? Our hearts have a propensity to become dulled by the routine or distracted by extracurriculars, especially as unhindered sin abounds in our hearts suppressing the Holy Spirit in and among us (Ephesians 4:30; 1 Thessalonians 5:19). In other words, we forget why and how we gather for worship. Or we become distracted by tertiary issues that are insignificant compared to meeting together in the presence of the Spirit of Christ.
How we come to worship informs our expectations of meeting with God. A dulled or distracted state at best veils us from meeting with the Lord and at worst divorces us from meeting with the Lord. As I stood at the altar on my wedding day, Paige joined me at the altar to covenant together in marriage to “strive side by side for the sake of the gospel” (Philippians 1:27). Her face, veiled. Enthusiastically, I anticipated the veil’s removal when I could see Paige in her beauty. Can you imagine if the veil remained? Access to her would be limited. When staring into her eyes, I would not see her purely but only through the veil. So also, our distractions and dulled affections veil us from the presence of God and at worst divorces us from the manifest presence of God in our life.
I cannot imagine living life separated from Paige. She is joy embodied and a delight to my soul. Yet when we live distracted from one another or in a state of conflict, our relationship is not at its best, not what it is intended to be. It is distorted and digressive. I am imagining how marriages can move from intimacy to separated-ness. Unresolved conflict, distractions, and digression in marriages lead not only to unhappy marriages but also into emotional, spiritual, or physical separation and isolation. We may still live together but not be intimately connected. You may still be eschatologically saved, but not connected in abundant relationship to God or to the manifest presence of the Spirit of God.
God wants us to be connected “in this present evil age” in abundant relationship to himself presently and to live in an ongoing, active relationship with him mediated through King Jesus and empowered by his Spirit. The apostle Paul encourages us to “look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil” (Ephesians 5:15-16). How then can we make the best use of my time with the gathered people of God in abundant worship? Experiencing abundant worship with God’s people and the presence of God among his people begins by evaluating ourselves.
How then can we care for ourselves and one another in our preparation to gather with God’s people in worship of the Father, Son, and Spirit? We prepare our hearts through worship and evaluating the 4 P’s:
our presence,
our perspective,
our posture, and
our participation.
Presence: Am I alert to God's promised presence with me and among his gathered people?
At 7:30 a.m. every morning a little guy makes himself known in our house. He wakes up happy, but he desires to be held, feed, and changed shortly after waking. From 7:30 a.m. until 8:00 p.m., he desires presence. Presence to be known. Presence to belong. Presence to be cared for. Without such presence, he withers. He withers physically. He withers emotionally. He withers from a lack of connection and nourishment. Our own souls dehydrate when we move away from or live apart from the presence of the Lord.
From the expulsion out of the garden, mankind has moved “away from the presence of the Lord” (Genesis 3:23-24; Genesis 4:16). Yet the Lord continued to reveal himself as mankind moved away from his presence. The Lord met mankind where they were. This is the grace of the Lord— Jesus meets us where we are and transforms us through the presence of the Holy Spirit.
As we survey the New Testament writings, various writers warn God’s people to be watchful (Matthew 26:41; Hebrews 2:1; 1 Peter 5:8-9; ). Why? Because even though God’s people have been transferred from the kingdom of darkness to the kingdom of the Beloved Son (Colossians 1:13-14), we still wrestle with sin (Romans 7:15-20; Hebrews 12:1). The apostle Paul not only warns us to be watchful but also to not distress and suppress God’s Spirit (Ephesians 4:30; 1 Thessalonians 5:19). As we are watchful, our responsibility is to be filled with the Spirit of God, which is substantiated by the we approach one another, addressing one another in worship to God and by the fruit of the Spirit (Ephesians 5:7-21; Colossians 3:12-17; Galatians 5:16-26).
What I am saying is that God’s presence in your life shapes your attitude, your words, your actions toward those with whom you gather. When you are alert to God’s promised presence, it changes the way you engage others and the content you bring to others. A person filled with God’s presence and with the fruit of the Spirit is sensitive to the wellbeing of others. This person may bring a word of scriptural encouragement or a needed scriptural challenge. This person may be attuned to another’s struggle with a life circumstance or sin. Whatever the result when this person gathers with God’s people it is immensely profitable to the soul, and the profitability this person brings is from an encounter with the presence of God by being filled with the Spirit herself.
Perspective: Is my heart focused on making much of Jesus rather than myself and my way?
Unfortunate real-life stories have been told about individuals in the church that demand their way over the good of others, the church, or community. On one occasion, a deacon stood in my office and declared, “I don’t care what the congregation wants, I’ll do what I want.” This neither cared for people he committed to serve nor made much of Jesus. It made much of himself. It was a declaration of war against God’s kingdom in the local church and in our community. This egocentric, self-interested response is not always so directly acknowledged. Often this attitude is exemplified in attitudes and responses more subtly, but nevertheless when it rears its ugly head it roars against others.
Addressing egocentric, self-interested attitudes, especially within our own heart, is fundamental to preparing our heart for worship and to prepare ourselves to encounter the Living God. In a world rattled by sin and chaos, this can be a difficult task especially when the gospel culture in the church is seemingly suppressed by self-interested attitudes or worse— apathy. With a self-focused, everything-but-Jesus perspective, proper perspective is absent from our worship.
Having proper Christ-centered perspective is transformative in the life of a church family and within a community. When our hearts prioritize making much of Jesus rather than ourselves, our kingdom impact becomes exponentially greater, because in a real sense we embody and participate in God’s kingdom, which is pushing back the darkness in the world by the power of God’s Spirit at work in us.
Talking about our favorite hobby or sports team is a wonderful starting place for engaging in conversation, but it is not the end. God’s Spirit in us defies the kingdom of this world by “stirring up one another for love and good works” (Hebrews 10:24). This materializes through prioritizing gospel care in our conversations. Gospel care is when we meet someone in their life situation with encouragement, counsel, and/or deeds that reflect truth about who Jesus is and his redemptive work applied (think, life application of the gospel in us). Paul talks about how we relate to our conversations with other believers in this way: “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear” (Ephesians 4:29). Walking away from a conversation without an idea about how to pray for, care for, or give grace to a person might at times be lacking. Walking into a conversation with a Scripture to encourage a brother in Christ in their life situation builds up Christ’s kingdom. This is why the Apostle Paul says, “Put to death therefore what is earthly in you” (Colossians 3:5). For while death does not have the final say for us as followers of Jesus Messiah, in our mortal flesh the kingdom of the world is still at war within us. This is why Jesus tells his disciples in the Garden of Gethsemane, “Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Matthew 26:41). So then as we watch and pray, we also to “let the word of Christ dwell in [us] richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in [our] hearts to God. And whatever [we] do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him” (Colossians 3:16-17).
The result of a perspective that focuses on making much of Jesus is the word of Christ dwelling in us richly and the love of Christ controls us. We’re thankful. We act in love towards others. We’re saturated in the Word of God. We’re filled with the Spirit of God. So, we speak not of ourselves but of Christ. This results in “stirring up one another for love and good works” (Hebrews 10:24) and the “building up of the body” (Ephesians 4:12-13, 16, 29), helping one another fix our eyes on Jesus, the founder and perfector of our faith (Hebrews 12:2).
Do you see why our perspective entering worship or gathering with God’s people matters? It’s an issue of us expressing to one another our relationship to God as his sons and daughters. If we aren’t his, we do not act like him; but if we are his, we live like him. When is the last time you have checked your perspective and thoughtfully engaged a person with thankfulness in your heart and with a word from the Lord that encourages their walk with the Lord? The genuineness of our worship of God bleeds to the way we engage others (Matthew 22:37-40).
Posture: Am I willing and able to hear and respond to the voice of the Lord with humility and vulnerability?
While teaching through how to share your faith relationally, I asked a group to share about how they met Jesus for the first time. After we shared those stories, the group shared recent impacts Jesus has made in their lives. Strikingly, some could not describe how Jesus has changed them to be more like Jesus in recent days, months, or years. A few could only recall when Jesus met them at their conversion. Of that few, one was able to articulate a transformative experience with Jesus during a difficult medical season decades ago. I wonder why this is: why people cannot share transformative experiences with Jesus outside of a conversation experience or an intense mountaintop experience? I think each of the four Ps adds value to the answer: Presence (i.e., not actively seeking the Lord’s presence regularly), Perspective (i.e., looking for the earthly rather than the things of Christ); Participation (i.e., not walking in faith to enact God’s kingdom), and Posture (i.e., not hearing and responding to the Lord with humility). In this case, these people performed for Jesus, but their perspective was of this world and their posture was pride and presumption; thus, they had not experienced the manifest presence of God in their lives in any substantive and transformative way since a day when they walked in humility and submitted to living like King Jesus. So, I would like to take a moment to unpack how posture affects our worship.
Commonly, posture is thought as the way a person holds his body when sitting or standing. For instance, when I stand, I naturally slump my shoulders forward without thinking; and when I sit, I relax with my legs crossed or kicked up on an ottoman with little thought. When we talk about posture as a metaphor in ethics, we are thinking about a deep-seated tendency to think, feel, or act in a particular way. While our posture is fundamental and developed display of our character, at times it may be contrived and insincere. Ultimately, even fabricated postures will be disentangled though it may come at the great eschatological judgment (Revelation 20:11-15). Presently, I want us to set aside the notion of fabricated postures. As believers in Christ, I think when we examine our heart with the help of others and the Holy Spirit, we will discern our basic posture before the Lord and others.
Two postures that are pervasive in the human heart are pride and humility. On numerous occasions in Scripture, God reveals these postures in the human heart and their outcomes (Psalm 51; 2 Chronicles 26; Luke 22:54-62; Philippians 2:6-11). One Scripture that gives clarity to God’s viewpoint on pride and humility is found in James 4:6. Citing the Greek edition of Proverbs 3:34, James says, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Our posture towards God and others affects God’s action toward us in this way: God resists those who are proud and gives favor to the humble. So, when we come to worship our posture affects how we engage God and engage others. God may resist our worship because our heart is oriented toward presumption and pride rather than obedience to him (1 Samuel 15; Luke 18:9-14).
Our willingness to hear God’s voice and respond in obedience is more significant than we may realize when engaging in worship. And it might be more necessary that you to think to prepare your heart for worship through an evaluation of your posture before the Lord. In 1 Samuel 15, King Saul claimed obedience to the Lord, yet he left the best of the sheep and the Amalekite king, Agag, alive after God demanded total destruction. Saul’s posture before the Lord was presumptuous. Saul thought he knew better than the Lord, and in his presumption and pride he considered himself obedient while the Lord considered Saul as rejected.
Your ability to hear the Lord and properly respond to him with humility and vulnerability— as when Isaiah declared, “Woe is me! For I am lost; for I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips; for my eyes have seen the King, the Lord of hosts” (Isaiah 6:5)— matters. Can you imagine if you prepared Saturday night or Sunday morning by asking yourself and assessing, “Am I willing and able to hear and respond to the voice of the Lord with humility and vulnerability,” and then asking the Lord to uncover rebellion in your heart that might prevent you from responding properly to the Lord. Abiding in the Lord is an invitation to bear the fruit of the Lord (John 15:1-17; Galatians 5:16-26).
Participation: Am I willing to step out in faith to enact God’s kingdom on earth as in heaven?
There is a pendulum that exists in the local church: pew warmers and ministry idolaters. Both are forms of self-service. The pew warmer comes to church to feed herself. The ministry idolater finds his validation and self-worth in working forthe Lord, prioritizing effectiveness over faithfulness and serving over relational health with the Lord. Neither is healthy in God’s economy.
Fruit-bearing participation is vital for healthy worship and a healthy walk with the Lord. Genuine belief is always coupled with faith-action, whether its faith and repentance when we first believed or faith and post-conversion obedience. (In case you miss it, repentance is an act of obedience.) There is no separation between faith and obedience in God’s economy. James 2:17 says, “So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.” The fruit of obedience is the visibility of faith. Faith is never isolated from obedience. Obedience shows where your faith is.
Participating in Christ’s kingdom is more than showing up to church on Sunday morning; although, it is a first-step signpost and demonstrates care for the things the Lord and God’s people. It is an opportunity to “stir up one another for love and good works…encouraging one another, and all the more as the Day draws near” (Hebrews 10:24-25). For this purpose, the Holy Spirit has given Jesus followers spirit-empowered gifts to serve God’s kingdom for the benefit of all (1 Corinthians 12:7, 11). You have been given a gift to serve Christ’s fellowship (Romans 12:3-8; 1 Corinthians 12; Ephesians 4:7-16). What gifts has the Holy Spirit given to you to serve Christ’s church? How will you actively participate in the ingathering of God’s people and throughout your life when scattered in the world?
How you respond to the Lord and participate in his kingdom matters. When Jesus said to someone, “Follow me.” The person requested to first go bury the dead. Jesus responded to the person, “Leave the dead to bury their own dead. But as for you, go and proclaim the kingdom of God.” Jesus further responded to another, “No one puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for the kingdom of God” (Luke 9:57-62). In other words, Jesus teaches us to value most the kingdom of God and our participation in it, because it is in God’s kingdom that we commune with God.
Participating in God’s kingdom is more than just “doing” or working for the Lord, participation is stepping in faith to follow the voice of Christ in service and walking in active relationship with the Lord. That may look differently than you expect. It may be with a people that you didn’t expect. And while that may be challenging to you, it will be for your good and others’ joy. It will be a kindness to those who are recipients of God’s grace through you. But it begins by walking by faith not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). It begins with “yes, Lord.” It begins with “how do you want me to be a light to others today?” And the surprising work of the Spirit will bring great tidings of great joy to this broken, hurting world through you, yourself a fragile jar of clay.
Anticipating A Prepared Heart
Can you imagine how the Lord could use you to shape his church family for his glory and their good through you actively preparing your heart for worship and the ingathering of your local church family? Can you imagine how the Lord could cultivate your own soul through actively caring for your soul through preparing your heart for worship and gathering with God’s people? The Lord is a generous God who gives good gifts to his children, gifts that awaken our affections and our imaginations to his beauty, holiness, and glory. And this is an invitation to come to Jesus as you are, when you are heavily burdened or full of energy. This is an invitation to be like Martha, sitting at the feet of Jesus to learn his way. The beauty of life in a dynamic healthy relationship with Jesus is that he is gentle and lowly in heart. He is one who gives rest to the weary soul and re-ignites our affections toward him without hindrance or worry (Matthew 11:28-30; Luke 10:38-11:13). May the Father be honored in how we prepare our hearts for communion with him and our beloved family in Christ.
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Afterthought: Other Questions To Ask Yourself Before Gathering with God’s People
Here are six other questions to answer that I would suggest to our church family to prepare our hearts as we gather with the saints for corporate worship:
How do I anticipate God’s Spirit will speak to me today?
What thoughts, attitudes, or sins may hinder me from worshiping freely through the Holy Spirit?
Is there anyone I need to forgive for offending me or seek forgiveness where I may have offended?
How will I actively engage in worship? (i.e., in joyful fellowship, in thankful worship, in intentional intake of the message, etc.)
Who will I encourage in the Lord? What encouragement will I speak into their life?
How will I be full of faith for your church family? (i.e., seek the good of others, be positive about the Lord’s work among us, etc.)
